Sunday 19 June 2016

Happy Fathers Day Celebration in HappyMom

HappyMom conducted contests for expected fathers and new fathers on their experiences on fathers to be and fathers . They had given us wonder stories , here are some

Sinduja R Venkatesh
  Life took a new advent when my wife handed me a small white stick with 2 purple lines in it. Certainly dazed with sheer enjoyment, over the little creature building life within my beloved was so special .
With all this few jitters also s
tarted creeping into me. More responsibility and more maturity in this journey. I missed my bubbly , ever enthusiastic crazy go lady wife rather she was nauseating and sulky all the time.
I decided to make the changes
== was up from bed before the sun and was in kitchen from salads to juices
== stopped watching wrestling shows and action cut movies but took my beloved on evening strolls
== no more time wasted in Facebook but was getting my wisdom updated in baby and maternity centric websites
== opened a mini book store at my table from " what to expect when your expecting " to Indian mythical " garba sanskar "
==never pushed my car gear lever above the 30km speed with the 2 of them around ( she and the little one inside)
== said bye to Akon and pink Floyd heard played the hymnals of soothing Garba sanskar
==banned partying and badminton over weekend attended Blooms antenatal classes and took notes ( the act that I stopped with school)
With all these sudden changes I got to see I was mentally pregnant. I do not crib or feel weary of it As I was always enthralled every time I crept into the scan room that awesome moment on seeing the little one wading through. The tiny little one is more more worthy . Counting my days to cuddle our little progeny..


December 25,2015, Half asleep in bathroom concerned about getting ready to office ( Just like a school
kid) , the moment I open the door I saw my Sweet darling standing so nervous which also made me so
panicky . When I received the message “I’m Pre
gnant” I had really no word to express I felt
“WOOOOOO….” Very energetic, bold enough to face my boos for any circumstances & also start my own
business & become to next Ambani (Just like hero’s getting established in a single song).
By the time I was directing a film in my head it was already 9am, shit I was really late office &
was busy getting ready. That was the day I started observing cute little ones playing around the
apartment, kids offered with day to day slogan (I meant the advice) from their parents and lot more
which cannot explained. Reached office safe, observing a glow in my face my colleagues were
wondering why? That day made me chit chat about kids, how to grow them etc…. which was real
surprise to my colleagues. I really wanna express my feeling to them, but unfortunately as per indian
system- the husbands have to keep the mouth shut for next three months and I followed the same.
For the next confirmation we went to Hospital to test Beta HCG and in the diagnostic center I
was informed about the report getting prepared only next day. Trust me until you the receive the test
report on the said date you will have miserable hours pounding in which I wasn’t able to eat properly
,sleep well and It was the day I saw lord Ganesha, Lord shiva , in dreams (Just kidding… ) . Most awaited
day came; my hands were shivering to open the report just like waiting for 10
th
result. The activity which
I performed in the Hospital was really funny to my wife. Was acknowledged with positive message and
we felt very happy again lot more which cannot be expressed. Upcoming days I was only thinking,
visualizing, again thinking, visualizing about babies- on a sudden I received a powerful note from my
inner voice slapping at my cheeks with beautiful saying “Rascal welcome to the Father Hood and thank
you for increasing the Indian population”.
Days passed by, were on regular check with the doctor and followed the instruction as given. During
the appointments with the doctor I prepared myself a day before for the queries to be asked. However
the moment I enter the doctor room, I totally go blue and I get mesmerized by the questions raised by
my wife and answer offered from other end. Since its one hour travel from Hospital to my residence I
shot questions to my wife about the discussion with doctor and at end she gets annoyed since I don’t
really understand the medical terms and honestly I am zero on it.
Yet , I believed there would be someone who will make me understand about the Pregnancy stages and
my belief arose true it was my neighbor ( I call her Dr. & Him Engr) who drizzled with detailed
information about the pregnancy . Each time I go with report to them and response I received- gave me
confidence that I am on the next path of Fatherhood. At times I also irritated them with toooooooo
much of interrogation which made them wonder and escape from my sight.
Then comes the next stage - Each time when I inform about the check up to my Sweet mom and the
intake my wife should have, believe me I was showered with Nuts & Fruits. Subsequently story telling
race started from my mother and mother-in-law about how I was raised and my wife which was the
beginning of the WAR between two.
Come’s the most anticipated Indian’s traditional question? – Guess before scrolling down?

Expecting a Boy or Girl……………………………………………..?
Times when I vision about being a father I only envision holding a baby girl or playing with my daughter
just like scenes in the movies, nevertheless we will be pleased incase it’s a baby boy.
7
th
month completed along with Baby Shower in my hometown “Erode” and for the 1
st
time I felt more
responsible for things happened on that day. Each stage when I see baby bump rising I feel too connected with
my little one. Until 7th
month completion I was unable to feel my little one kicking his mom irrespective o placing my palm in her baby bump for hours & hours.
Now days the moment I feel the touch of my little one i go down with tears which makes me believe I
have already achieved 70% of Fatherhood.
Awaiting for August end or Sep 1
st
week which will be “100% Beginning of Fatherhood “
I lost my dad when I was Age:13 I would be happy to share my joys , happiness and lot more which I missed
doing with my dad. I will make sure he/she is more protected from the day my little one is born.
I pledge a promise to walk with my little one during each stage when he/she overcomes in the upcoming
future.

Written by –C.Sakthikumaran
H/o –S.Archana Priyadarhini

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